Sunday 27 October 2013

baby Israel Emmanuel

Noeline asked our family to give Israel his other name (there are no family names or tribal names that she has so the baby gets two or three given names only).  We suggested a couple to her because of their meanings and from those she chose Emmanuel: "God with us".  We wanted her to know that God is with her and Israel and to always remember that fact throughout good or bad times.
Noeline and baby Israel Emmanuel

Israel Emmanuel

My first born Samuel with Israel

Friday 25 October 2013

Mama Israel. The story of Noeline's birth- by Bethan


Noeline’s labour pains were rumbling along quietly all day (24th October) and started strongly at 10pm in the evening.  I sat with her in her room after I had put the kids to bed and tried to ramble on about all sorts of different subjects to take her mind off the growing contraction pains she was having.  She seemed most comfortable sitting or lying on the concrete floor, which made me think of all the comforts I had during labour: the bouncing ball, the pillows and hot baths… Her contractions continued every five minutes for the next few hours, getting stronger each time until, at 2.30am it was clear that Noeline couldn’t handle the pain anymore and I wasn’t able to cope with her in pain on my own either!  I gave Jonah-B a top-up feed in his sleep so he wouldn’t wake up for Gareth when I was out then took Noeline to the Alleluia clinic.   As I rumbled over the speed humps and toppled over the pot-holes in the pitch black with Noeline wincing at every bump I began to wish I had tried to find the clinic beforehand!  Noeline and I had assumed that the other one knew where it was!  To get lost and turn around at this point would be not only difficult and uncomfortable but soul-destroying for Noeline.

We found the clinic and banged on the gate for what seemed like an eternity.  I parked the car in the compound and the guard woke up the midwife on duty.  He was called Nelson and led us through a room where he turned the light on and two women with recently new-born babies looked round grumpily wondering why they had been disturbed.  We arrived in the next room that was small and had a pot-holed concrete floor, scuffed walls and a sink with no water in the taps, two clinical beds and a cupboard crammed in it.  Noeline climbed uncomfortably onto one of the beds and Nelson said to me “make her some tea with sugar” I looked for the tea machine… unlikely!  I saw that Noeline had packed a hot-water flask and a tea-bag with sugar.  I then remembered the cup that she thrust at me before leaving the house that I assumed she was returning to the house and I felt awful: I had forgotten her mug that means now she couldn’t have a drink during labour!  Nelson sighed and begrudgingly asked one of the other women for her mug and I made some sweet tea.  Noeline settled down to continue labour after being told that she had “2 cm”.  My heart sank: only 2 cm!  But then Nelson said “no, I mean 2cm remaining!  She’s at 8cm!”  Brilliant!  Not long now!  Nelson said to us “I need your rubber gloves, plastic sheet, cotton sheet and kitenge (African material) plus cord ties, razor and gauze.”  I was stunned.  You mean she was supposed to bring all of those things herself?!  Thankfully Noeline knows the system and had packed everything she needed, including a large plastic basin for washing afterwards!

When it was time to push, Nelson told Noeline to get in a supine position on the plastic sheet  ready for delivering and… everything stopped and became eerily calm!  Her contractions completely stopped and we just sat waiting.  And waiting.  And waiting.  3.30am. Nelson said the baby should be here by 4.  I won’t go into details but every time Nelson tried to do something as an intervention he didn’t tell Noeline what he was doing so I had to interrupt him and explain to a scared Noeline what he was about to do each time.  “Get me a needle from that cupboard and pass me the small vial of oxytocin” Nelson said to me so quietly that I had to ask three times what he meant for me to do!  After the injection Noeline’s contractions began again and she started to push.  There was still no sign of any pain-killers, not even gas and air!  At 4.30am she was still pushing.  At 5am she was still pushing.  The baby was stuck in the U-bend!  I said to Nelson that in the UK we sometimes change position during labour to try to let gravity help the baby down but Nelson just laughed as if we British people have our funny ways!  At 5.30 the pushing was getting harder for Noeline: she was exhausted and losing hope that she would even see her baby.  I was concerned the baby was getting too tired and weak but Nelson didn’t seem fazed as he started talking about how Jesus can be of any race or nationality he wants because he is beyond human perception and Noeline kept pushing and pushing.  “Get some clinical gloves on and hold this kitenge open ready to catch the baby” Nelson told me.  I nervously waited with my gloves on, mopping Noeline’s brow as she fought against her exhaustion.  “Now push down on Noeline’s belly when she pushes to help her since she is now so tired.” Nelson instructed.  I tried my best!  Eventually, at 6am, a baby’s head appeared and, shortly after, a baby boy was laid on Noeline’s tummy.  “Get for me a cord-tie and razor for the baby’s cord from Noeline’s mother’s kit.  Also a suture kit and another needle and syringe from that cupboard” said Nelson.  I now knew where everything was in the room and quickly set him up for tying the cord and helping Noeline.

After doing what needed to be done, Nelson told Noeline to stand up off the bench.  “Now wash your hands and breasts” said the nurse who had just come on day-shift.  “Let me find some water.”  She looked around and found nothing.  “Here, use your cup of tea” she concluded.  So she poured the sugary tea over Noeline’s hands and she washed with it!  Does tea have antiseptic qualities that I haven’t heard of before?  Am I missing something?  The nurse rooted through Noeline’s bag to find various plastic and cotton sheets and made her a bed in the next room.  We went through, I was holding the baby wrapped in three or four pieces of old bed-sheet that Noeline had brought with her for this purpose.  She sat down and we figured out together how to get little baby attached for a breast-feed.  Poor Noeline was exhausted and overwhelmed but overall in good spirits. I brought out some chocolate and cake I had for her to get her energy back.  Later that day she had so many visitors that she had hardly had time to sleep or rest, but in Ugandan culture it is rude to turn visitors away so she bore it with her usual pleasantness although behind the exterior there were tears of an overflow of emotion waiting to be released!

Thursday 24 October 2013

Noeline in labour!

I'm just putting a short message up in case anyone sees this before she gives birth to pray for her labour this evening, which started gradually during the day!

Monday 14 October 2013

Some Thoughts that are going around Bethan's brain!


Have you ever read the Beatitudes (Mt 5 or Lk 6) and thought “Oh dear, I am in the wrong category”?  I have been reading the book of Luke recently where chapter 6 verses 20 – 35 have been really challenging me.   “Blessed are you who are poor for yours is the kingdom of God”.  Well I’m not physically poor, especially not in comparison to my Ugandan friends.  You could interpret the meaning to be “blessed are you who are [spiritually] poor” and then we Westerners might have a leg to stand on!  The next verse is this: “Blessed are you who hunger now, for you will be satisfied.  Blessed are you who weep now, for you will laugh.”  But I’m not hungry and I’m not sad so where does that leave me when it comes to the blessings and Kingdom of God?  In our weekly Bible study that we have with other Westerners at our home, we have been studying the book of James.  What I read there challenged me even further with recommendations that in order to follow Christ we need to “consider it pure joy whenever you face trials of many kinds because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance” (1:2) or that we should be “quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger” (1:19).  Or even that “faith without deeds is dead” in 2:26!  So when I reached 4:9 “Grieve, mourn and wail.  Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom” I thought why on earth would I want to do that, and why is James telling me to do so?  The next verse, 4:10 says “Humble yourselves before the Lord and he will lift you up.”  That is exactly the type of topsy-turvy Gospel that the Beatitudes teaches so I went back to the passage I had been reading in Luke and decided that I am not a lost cause just because I am not sad or hungry.  Instead, if I put together James’ advice to “grieve, mourn and wail” and Jesus’ instruction that “blessed are you who weep” I may be on to something.  If I am perfectly happy and content but there are others in the world who are weeping and hungry, I should be coming alongside them in their sadness and hunger.  I should be putting myself in their position to empathise and help them.  If someone is hungry but I am not, I should be helping to feed them.  If someone is crying and I am perfectly happy I should be weeping with them in their sorrow.  If someone is humble and I am proud I should be humbling myself even lower than them to serve them.  By living in this way – a way the world tells us is a bit crazy! – God will lift me up and those blessings from the Beatitudes are suddenly a lot more attainable and make a lot more sense.

So why am I writing this blog post?  Well it’s mostly for my own benefit of working things out for myself by physically writing them!  But also, here in Uganda we come across a variety of needs and requests and if we look carefully in the Bible there is advice for everything, even though often it seems to be different to how we, as humans, want to deal with things.  For example when someone asks to borrow money Jesus tells us in Luke 6:35 to “lend to them without expecting to get anything back”.  That is not what we learn in our culture where we expect every penny within a certain time-frame, perhaps with interest.  When we put this piece of Jesus’ teaching together with the African culture where if you have more resources than someone else you are expected to share them without expecting anything back and without asking questions then we really have to go against our cultural grain!  So I’m sharing my small insight into these Biblical teachings because they challenge our decision making wherever we live and whatever or whoever we come across in life, but they also give clear instructions on how to live, which makes life easier really, rather than having to figure things out for ourselves!